Princess Leia

Guess I'm a dork for writing this down, but anyway...apparently there is a thing called Geek Girl Con going on.  A lady friend got me to go with her.  It was nearly half dudes.

This hot girl walked by twice wearing an awesome Leia costume (hairbuns, not bikini) and it had like a slit going up to her thigh.  The first time we made eye contact and I saw her smile and glance away.  What I instinctively read told me to avoid making a pass.  Still had this mindset...geekdom...girls drowning in men...hate being approached...and she's like one of two hot ones within the entire acre.  My friend thought differently though, and even told me I should chase after her, which is kind of an anathema to me.  By the time she had me convinced to like, run after Leia and ask her out by giving her my nonexistent business card, she was gone.

She said a lot of things that contradict the conventional wisdom.  Most people say never, ever give a girl your number (or card) because you should always get theirs, for reasons I don't care about.  I think I'm going to try it, though, at least with girls I wouldn't otherwise talk to.  Like a little drive by "hey I like your costume I'd love to hang out some time" or whatever my friend told me to say.    Finding the words to use is going to be difficult because what I'm actually saying is "you're hot and you're dressed like Leia; I want to be on top of you."  I'd prefer to use those exact words but after hearing what every female friend has said, plus a touch of experience...I know I can't.

Another interesting thing my friend told me is that in all the years of being what I say is the only female Magic The Gathering player (note: ladies, I do not play this game.  I am available for lame OKCupid dates with bitchy girls), she was only hit on 5 times.  I find that strange.  After all the stories of the insane attention geek girls get, stories of girls playing male characters and hiding their gender, how could one of them only get asked out 5 times in a matter of years?  And she's not ugly either.  Is it possible that despite showering them with unwanted attention, most of the guys don't go all the way towards making a move?  I don't know.

I just know that normally, when I think about hitting on a hot girl, I think of all the guys that have come before me with their pathetic attempts and shudder in disgust at the very idea that I will be counted among them.  Going after a girl like that makes me imagine a pile of slimy dogs covered in mud and shit, slithering over one another as they try to reach a single piece of steak that is dangling out of their reach.  I know that has been true in some places...my dance partner Kristal (yeah, with a fucking K...damn I wanted her)  got hit on like every week at the dance studio.  I'm not even kidding.  She was like a level 10 Approach-discourager.  She was so good at shooting down guys she made the Red Baron look like a rookie.

Perhaps its different in the geekier places of the world?  Perhaps I need to choose a new way of thinking about it.  And order business cards.  I've always prefered to meet girls the slow way...girls on the same team, with the same band, in the same class, drinking at the same parties or with the same friends.  Approaching cold seems like all the work and none of the fun, but I'm going to try it.  Like really try it.  Like right now I could...well my apartment is a mess (like there is not really anywhere to sit...or stand), but I could at least be getting a drink with Leia if I had not hesitated.  That's all the motivation I need for next time.